Gay marriage continues to be a hot-button, political, cultural and religious issue. No matter what side of the issue you fall on, this tongue-in-cheek Open letter makes a far more serious point. Inside the church walls “The Bible says…” may work. Outside the church, say in public policy and legislation, a different standard applies. To advance legislation that prevents one act while supporting another on moral grounds requires evidence that the prohibited act is morally harmful or substantially inferior to the supported act. In this case the question is wether gay marriage will harm marriage as an institution. The elephant in the room is identified in this open letter. It’s easy to identify because Amy Koch, proponent of a constitutional amendment define marriage in a way that forever excludes the possibility of gay marriage, had an illicit affair with a subordinate.
My mom taught me that two wrongs don’t make a right. That’s true. Her affair doesn’t mean gay marriage is ok. What it does do is undermine the notion that it’s gay marriage that undermines heterosexual marriage. It’s not. Even among the most religious, marriages fail at a rate of 50%. We need to worry more about our societies seaming inability to make and keep commitments, resolve conflicts, seek forgiveness and reconciliation, love someone by putting their needs above your own, and so on.
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An Open Apology to Amy Koch on Behalf of All Gay and Lesbian Minnesotans
Dear Ms. Koch,
On behalf of all gays and lesbians living in Minnesota, I would like to wholeheartedly apologize for our community’s successful efforts to threaten your traditional marriage. We are ashamed of ourselves for causing you to have what the media refers to as an “illicit affair” with your staffer, and we also extend our deepest apologies to him and to his wife. These recent events have made it quite clear that our gay and lesbian tactics have gone too far, affecting even the most respectful of our society.
We apologize that our selfish requests to marry those we love has cheapened and degraded traditional marriage so much that we caused you to stray from your own holy union for something more cheap and tawdry. And we are doubly remorseful in knowing that many will see this as a form of sexual harassment of a subordinate.
It is now clear to us that if we were not so self-focused and myopic, we would have been able to see that the time you wasted diligently writing legislation that would forever seal the definition of marriage as being between one man and one woman, could have been more usefully spent reshaping the legal definition of “adultery.”
Forgive us. As you know, we are not church-going people, so we are unable to fully appreciate that “gay marriage” is incompatible with Christian values, despite the fact that those values carry a biblical tradition of adultery such as yours. We applaud you for keeping that tradition going.
And finally, shame on us for thinking that marriage is a private affair, and that our marriage would have little impact on anyone’s family. We now see that marriage is more than that. It is an agreement with society. We should listen to the Minnesota Family Council when it tells us that marriage is about being public, which explains why marriages are public ceremonies. Never did we realize that it is exactly because of this societal agreement that the entire world is looking at you in shame and disappointment instead of minding its own business.
From the bottom of our hearts, we ask that you please accept our apology.